You can't please everyone.
Today's post is going to be about being confident in your own skin, even though some days, judgments can ruin your self-image. We've all been there; you feel good about an outfit, until suddenly, some insulting comment sours your mood for the rest of the day. Whenever this happens to me, I'm usually told to simply brush it off or forget about it.
When I was younger, my defense mechanism against negative energy was a somewhat stubborn, I-don't-care-about-you attitude. Perhaps I was just being naive, but it got me through some rough experiences with rude people. I wore, said, and did as I pleased, disregarding antagonistic people. Over time, I eventually lost this thick skin; it hit me one day that, you know what? I do care what people think of me.
And that's completely okay.
It's human nature to care about how others perceive you. It only starts becoming a problem when you become so burdened with what people think that you lose yourself in the process of trying to please others. In other words, while it's perfectly fine to be concerned with your image, your opinion of yourself has to be greater than anyone else's. That's easier said than done, and often times I find difficulty differentiating between who I am and who others want me to be.
As Dita Von Teese says, "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there' still going to be somebody who hates peaches." You can't please everyone, but you can definitely please yourself. And in life, you are only person you have to please. There are always going to be people who don't appreciate who you are. There are always going to be people whose sole intent is to hurt you or bring you down. And frankly, who needs 'em?
In the end, we live for ourselves. There's only one you, and there will only ever be one you. So be you. Learn to love yourself because you're the only you there is, and that's how it's going to stay. Never let anyone, and I mean anyone, stop you from being happy.
Stay beautiful,
Patricia
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